My evening thoughts

I have a million and one thoughts running through my mind and I can't help but smile . Men are curious beings and watching them stare at women even this late in the dark you have got to ask yourself how they do it. They are the ultimate thirst lords who will never be quenched or satisfied sadly. Some will secretly want more while the rest openly roam around in search for more if not better.

As a lady I could easily conclude that these men are crazy about me but in actual sense I know what's running through their minds. So I won't sit here and lie to myself that I am "all that and a bag of chips" . Some are bored out of their mind , others frustrated , to afew I remind them of a version of who the one he is with used to be , to one or two am a reality check that good women still exist and to the rest am just a vision of self pleasure.

Easy come easy go so ladies don't be a seasonal thought to any man. Aspire to be the only one who leaves him speechless. Men are easily fascinated and easily bored. Don't be summer when what he needs is winter. Beauty cracks but character like fine wine makes the heart of a king Merry.

And that is my #RealityCheck

Sunday May...

It's rather a cold Sunday. The sun is shy but you can feel the possibility of a good day ahead. Some are in church , warm in bed nursing a previous wild night out and others doing right by society "putting on a show to save face, in meaningless relationships and dead marriages".

Someone somewhere believe it or not wishes they had your life.  Not literally but what you secretly don't want. Life is not up for trade but isn't it funny how seasons can change people? How one minute you can have it all and the next regret how you wasted time on things and people who you can't stand.

Talking about it to a friend helps, drinking to forget helps , compromising helps but it's all for a while. As I write I sure hope someone somewhere gets a little ray of sunshine in their cold routine of a life.

And that is my #RealityCheck.

Just a different package

Halo Monday.  So tell me something, what happens when you get what you want but in just a different package?  Do you accept it or walk away.

Ladies,what do you do when you get the man you have always wanted and does almost everything you imagined though he is not what you want. He knows exactly what, how and when to say and do what you secretly crave for without having to ask him yet sadly in an ungrateful way, you are not into him?

Gentlemen, when she meets your every desire yet somehow makes your fantasies a reality and even makes you want to give her your name but somehow she comes in a different package.  She would be the complete *It Girl* if only she was taller, shorter,  lighter,  darker, add weight, loose weight, had more curves, had less curves ...

When did we stop being human beings and start playing "God"? Truth be told there is nothing wrong with her/him however, you are still stuck on the past. Why do we always feel the need to compare when we can ran with Right Now? Don't get me wrong am not judging you. I understand what you want but correct me if am wrong didn't you just have what you wanted and now life is presenting you with what you truly need. How would you feel if someone said,"You have what it takes but honestly speaking you are just a different package." You would walk away feeling not good enough for not only them but everyone else after.

So this month of possibilities,  May life present you with what you need and not what you want. And that is my #RealityCheck.

Spousal heartbreak

It's amazing how a simple heartbreak can screw up your entire mindset.  From hugs and kisses to its just me and my liquor store blues.  It hurts more when you are the one giving more of yourself in terms of time, money and moral support.  You tell yourself and even manage to convince the entire world they need you and that life without you would be hard. Where are they now? So you see life does go on even without you or them in the picture.

We all look for that one reason to keep us going. For most women, they find comfort in their babies and men their careers.  As long as he has a job , earns a decent salary , plays his role as the supportive husband and father he is sure no matter what kind of hell he puts this woman through in his mind he knows she will never walk away. She needs him. That is his assurance card . His way of comforting himself that she loves him.

The relationship ended before it even began. The chemistry was short lived. Let's be honest ladies you stopped being attracted to this human being the day it dawned on you that it's too late to walk away. You are in too deep and by that I mean, you can't go back not after the show you have been putting on. Let's face it,  no one wants to purchase an old car with fresh paint on it. That is how most women beat themselves down infront of a mirror.  I am too old to be competing with young blood and let's not forget that no man or his family will accept a single mother.  So you stay. After all you are the mother of his children. He will never abandon them or you.  That is your way of defining it as a solid partnership.

Slowly both of you are dying. You are not even friends. You can't even get past a halo without arguing. It works though. The routine is your new normal. He compensates with expensive gifts while she acts like a teenager inlove to save face. Now that is what I call a spousal heartbreak.  You may not say it but as society, we can see it.

And that is my #RealityCheck.

22:48 April 2016

I don't understand women. I am one but at times I feel as though am a man. Some of the things women do out of insecurities leaves nothing to desire or admire about them. Single women want to be in relationships while as those fortunate enough to land a good man end up treating him like garbage. 

Why would a woman insist on going back to the very same place she couldn't stand? What men don't know is that the very same women they are dating are busy putting on a show trying to prove to the single women that they are missing out yet they end up hanging out at the very same joints they 'loathe'. Please make me understand.  Are you acting ungrateful,  mocking those who are not in your social status or is the villager in you finally getting the best of you so you can't help but go back to your roots?

Never apologise for being blessed. I know I won't.  Forgive me if I never go back or dress like I used to just to save the humility face.  There is nothing wrong with driving a Ferrari and owning multiple businesses. There are so many secret millionaires who still associate with people beneath them not because they want to be praised but because they have not allowed fame and money rob them of their true character and personality. I wish women took the same amount of time and money to invest in themselves inwardly as they please men outwardly. 

My Monday Mix

I am just from reading an interesting article from a man's perspective.  His last remark was ladies there is nothing you are missing out on. It is true that we ladies love details. I happen to self crown myself as the ultimate mistress of every detail.  The reason why I am fixed on hearing anything and everything a man has been up to is not to secretly compete or feel better than what else is out there but I want to truly listen to what he is not telling me. Have you ever heard of its not what you are saying but rather how you are expressing yourself when saying it? That is all I ever need to know.

Men are known to fake words and sometimes conversation to save face but the one thing we all can't fake is our emotions. Ladies learn to stare that man deep into his eyes and slowly watch him calm down, get all nervous and look away. In my own opinion I believe men are terrified of women who pay attention. They don't know what to do with a good woman so they end up hurting the ones they truly love and act polite to those who don't care about them. The one lady who only calls him when every other letter in the alphabet has gone broke or silent on her. Forgive me for what am about to write but truly you deserve the title she has branded you... CLOWN. You sir are the laughing stalk of her girl circle. You are not the life of the party, no, you are just the coal to keep the shisha going.

What are you talking about? They love me! No sir, they tolerate the fact that you make life easier by showering them with money and occasional gifts and they in return communicate four times a month if you are lucky. By four times I mean every weekend and guess who is buying? You deserve it because deep down such men assume and ignore a perfectly good conversation with "a plain Jane" because to them these kind of women don't look or dress the part. They are not public figures. They may not rock six inch heels *they don't see the need to doll up* but they can get you laughing from morning till noon. Most of them don't club not because they are boring but don't see the need of "wasting money on other men and women who don't even like you to fit in".

So I have come to this conclusion.  The only reason why any man would frustrate a practically good lady is not because she is not enough , it is because he is insecure. Deep down he knows that if he was to introduce her to his friends they would date her. The more he spends time with her the more inspired and motivated he becomes. He is falling for her. That can't happen so the first chance he gets, he screw her over into thinking she has done something wrong. She is not the problem rather he is and being the silent kind, she let's him be and slowly starts to put up walls to keep any other man away. That is how a broken man drains a good woman emotionally without abusing her physically or verbally.  Silence in itself is an answer.

And that us my #RealityCheck. Goodnight checkmates. 

Saturday thoughts

Good morning checkmates. We are all curious and looking for heaven knows what but what really gets my attention is when either I want it bad enough or someone else does. Am talking about Access Denied.  The less information you have the more you want. This is a bad habit which can easily result to stalking, Kidnapping and murder.  Depending on how psycho you are. We are all crazy but someone of us know how to dress it up with make up, expensive clothes/shoes and a designer perfume. I am a lady so that is how I would do it.

What I have just discovered is that just like there is no such thing as bad publicity, giving full access to someone who wants it bad enough or is rather obsessed with you/being better than you only makes them end up looking like a fool. Living like you have something to hide makes it interesting for people to want in in your circle. 

If you are the one chasing information then it means you not only admire them but want to learn more of what makes them stand out. To me that is enough to let me know that you acknowledge that I have something special either you aspire to own or others have been talking about.  When you are happy and wrapped up in your own little world, people notice.  When the very same people who think they have it going on reach out, that is when you realise that you are doing something right. Don't deny them access because at this particular moment they are obsessed with you. Pull a reverse psychology on them. Wise people always act the fool.

It is scary and exciting both at the same time. Information is power and what you do not know won't hurt you but in most cases there is nothing to find. Use what you find to better yourself and not try to belittle the master.

In conclusion that is what I call paranoia. It's never what it seems and that is my #RealityCheck.