Needy Men

I have gotten the go ahead from my bestfriend to blog on needy men. Where are my manners? Hi there. I go by Jess but you can call me Njeri. Clearly we are not familiar with each other “yet” so let’s keep it professional. Ignore the avi & pay attention to my words/ opinion below. I know what you are thinking 🤔 why would such a beauty waste her time on such things? If you think am here to waste your time, congratulations am sure I have exceeded your expectations. If you believe am here to make a difference, keep that smile broad and prolonged. Read on 👇

Needy men. Let’s get something out of the way here, a needy man is one with needs and not a man showing weakness in his character. Now that I have defined that, let me start off by letting you know what my bestfriend said about me regarding needy men. She is so hilarious . Am an Aquarius lady. I grew up a wanjakihii (tomboy) climbing trees and wrestling my brothers. I built cars, played  football & started doing my own laundry when I was 9-10 years to date. I am more focused on hard work as opposed to physical beauty. My bestfriend had this to say, “Jess, you can date a needy man because let’s face it, you are a man.” Like I said she is hilarious. God created me tough because He knew my purpose in life requires a tough human being to get the job done. I have sufficient grace to handle it .

Am a destiny helper. That is one of the many gifts I have been humbly blessed with. The people I have had encounters with had one thing in common, fragile souls. They are so giving of themselves, they hardly ever make it about themselves. That’s where God positions me.

Needy gentlemen and ladies have fragile souls. They are so delicate to a fault that if in the wrong hands, they will never blossom to their fullest. There is who you are, who people know you to be and the hidden potential in all of us. Why do you think love is the greatest gift? Why do you think there are soulmates? It’s that soul to soul connection that which can only exist when two hearts beat as one. The same way a mother knows her child is not okay is the same way a man/ lady is supposed to figure it out that something is up with their spouse. Needy men are very special and not everyone gets them. They come off as work which excites me because I love working on mysteries. They come off as kind and generous to a point where most describe them as too nice. Thus nice guys finish last.

If you know you are needy in certain areas of your life, get with someone who is strong. Think of the times you are the most vulnerable. Then picture someone more needy expecting you to see them through such circumstances. That’s a disaster waiting to happen. Two broken hearts will always find reasons to try and fix what’s broken. Two capable hearts will always find a way to stay happy. Your job is to love and receive that love in return. The problem with trying to fix a person is entitlement. I fixed you so choose me. It’s pathetic. Sympathy won’t keep a man. It will certainly capture his attention the same way nudity does but let’s face it, life is not a play boy mansion. At some point, you will out grow it. Needy gentlemen and ladies, loved the right way can be hidden streams. Don’t allow the ground work fool you. Some are born needy while others become needy due to unavoidable circumstances. Being needy doesn’t make you less of a man or lady.

I guess that’s why am single. I don’t know how to ask as I was born and taught how to become self sufficient. Real life is not one big happy family where we all share hugs and kisses. It’s survival for the fittest. Am just working on my 50%. See I might not match you financially but perhaps all I have to give comes in emotionally. We all have something to offer you just have to know what you are bringing to the table. Remember, it takes two to tango #MyMagazineThoughts

I missed the mark

Certain chances and opportunities in life are like shooting stars. I spent so much time back then looking up for such stars that I missed out on how beautiful the sky is at night. I would try and figure out the mystery behind each zodiac I could think off that sometimes I would walk away disappointed.

I wished upon a shooting star twice.

I never got what I wanted. Now with each chance I get to look up, I just think of how beautiful Gods work really it. It’s like walking in an art gallery hoping to meet the owner yet walking away disappointed.

I missed the mark.

I have learnt from that.

Today, I focus on the artwork if not the masterpiece infront of me. Perhaps it took a minute or longer but the story behind that painting or poem is what I seek the most. There is a deeper hidden meaning. Not for me to try and figure it out but for me to observe and embrace my own flaws which make me beautiful altogether.

You learn to live inspired and use that to have the courage to chase your own dreams. It’s not for you to love the author or poet, it’s for you to fall inlove with your own special kind of madness or magic which makes you, YOU ✨

Am not smart, Am wise

I stopped hanging out and availing myself to people who don’t see me the way God sees me. I am very protective of myself and who I am. Not many get the privilege of me calling you my friend. There are certain roles I take very seriously in life. Being someone’s friend is COSTLY.

Having meaningless conversations is something I avoid. Am a dreamer and sometimes a doer. I spend more time alone dreaming, imagining and envisioning. Am happiest alone just me and Google defying facts and feeding my mind with indescribable possibilities. Am creating my own facts. Calling you a friend is a priceless gift. If I ever say I don’t trust you it’s one of two things. I don’t know your story (why you act the way you do) or you have shown me why I shouldn’t trust you either directly or indirectly.

The one thing I pride myself in is respect. I will both respectfully walk in your life and gladly walk out. Am not an A student but I know how to read inbetween the lines. Am not smart, am wise. See if you have a story to tell, you have a hidden dream inbetween then & now. Wouldn’t be nice to just wake up one day & God brings you, a you. Imagine that. A you in another person. Someone who sees you the way you see yourself even when sometimes according to society there is nothing to see. Them seeing every possibility of you becoming bigger than your dreams. Them reminding you every now and then when doubt creeps in. Them praying with you. Them being angry at you when you stop believing. Have you ever had such a friend? Have you ever met such a person?

Everyone deserves this. Not everyone is that lucky. I got this line from a movie. Be careful how you treat people because you could be entertaining an angel. You are placed on this Earth to love and be loved. If you aren’t getting or giving one of the two, something is wrong.

For me to call you my friend it means I see that fight in you as well. You want it bad enough to wait for it and not be greedy. You have discipline and determination. You are focused yet a little crazy. It’s in you as it’s who you have always been even when you weren’t sure.

As I said it’s COSTLY. You must pay the price. It’s not something you buy into or out. All legends & the people I admire and look up to, have paid the price. They just didn’t have bad breaks but only had God left. It’s that much sweeter when it’s that bitter #MyMagazineThoughts