That's the rule of life

When it comes to dudes I know all they are after are three things. Money, power and women. But when it comes to a gentleman’s club all I see are two things ; fear and women. They already have the money and power that comes with it.

I live by this rule: I ain’t shit but am shit.

That’s why it’s important to me to know a man’s story. I don’t want to walk around fooling myself am shit but in actual sense, am not. At the same time, don’t get it twisted in assuming you are shit because of your experiences when to me you ain’t shit.

That’s the rule of life.

That’s why there will always be someone prettier, smarter and let’s not forget less than smart. It’s important for me to know the kind of woman a man goes for because it will tell me why.

Ladies are quick to dismiss others in this silly manner. You are not a threat. Oh please her, girl bye. See I may not look like you which I thank God am not but in taking my time to try and figure this man out, I know what he really likes.

Physicality has never been my specialty. I genuinely don’t care about looks. That’s why when majority are chasing brands, am out here trying to figure out what makes this particular man tick.

I hate surprises but I love being proved wrong. Atleast that way, if I don’t understand a situation perhaps I can predict the outcome. I hate walking into anything blindly.

Gentlemen fear being caught off guard. See in dating the same type of woman, it’s easier to mange and protect themselves. It makes it easier for them to still retain the power and the money. That way, they don’t have to chase, they just have to introduce themselves and from there, things will align themselves. Am I wrong?

That’s all true I assume from my observation but the fear comes in when unfamiliar presents itself. As a man he is born to conquer. But this is different territory. She doesn’t look or act the same as what he is used to. She becomes a challenge which he gladly takes on as if it doesn’t work out, hey, there is always enough room to sneak off and get with familiar.

I always advise men this when it comes to ladies. It’s never what it seems. Some are good from far but far from good. Just because you are not willing to make and take time to understand it, don’t dismiss it.Good things or opportunities aren’t everywhere in the open. Don’t use old tricks to conquer new territory.

People are out here for themselves. Loyalty is expensive. You hardly ever hear people putting in a good word for you. Greed may have outweighed kindness but not taken it out. Am modern yet very old fashioned. I don’t act or try to put on an act to come off a certain way.

I don’t see what everyone else sees by putting it out there on social media. I see deeper and further. Am not attracted to what’s already out there, am into the dissatisfaction in your eyes. The uncertainty and curiosity but more so, am attracted to the fear you are projecting. That tells me, there is room for someone like me.

Those right there are #MyMagazineThoughts

Rare Things in life

Happy new month Bachelors and bachelorettes. I wish you the rare things in life like hugs and kisses. Not all at the same time but then again I mean why not. To a love filled month. Don’t just give it, expect it then embrace it. From my madness to yours mwah 😚

This is it. This is the month to go for it. It’s time to chase it down like it’s all you have been living for. Don’t just settle for a hi or a phone number schedule a date. Push yourself to better. There is nothing wrong with okay but this month strive for more. Get it done ✅

I am all about #MyMagazineThoughts

Needy Men

I have gotten the go ahead from my bestfriend to blog on needy men. Where are my manners? Hi there. I go by Jess but you can call me Njeri. Clearly we are not familiar with each other “yet” so let’s keep it professional. Ignore the avi & pay attention to my words/ opinion below. I know what you are thinking 🤔 why would such a beauty waste her time on such things? If you think am here to waste your time, congratulations am sure I have exceeded your expectations. If you believe am here to make a difference, keep that smile broad and prolonged. Read on 👇

Needy men. Let’s get something out of the way here, a needy man is one with needs and not a man showing weakness in his character. Now that I have defined that, let me start off by letting you know what my bestfriend said about me regarding needy men. She is so hilarious . Am an Aquarius lady. I grew up a wanjakihii (tomboy) climbing trees and wrestling my brothers. I built cars, played  football & started doing my own laundry when I was 9-10 years to date. I am more focused on hard work as opposed to physical beauty. My bestfriend had this to say, “Jess, you can date a needy man because let’s face it, you are a man.” Like I said she is hilarious. God created me tough because He knew my purpose in life requires a tough human being to get the job done. I have sufficient grace to handle it .

Am a destiny helper. That is one of the many gifts I have been humbly blessed with. The people I have had encounters with had one thing in common, fragile souls. They are so giving of themselves, they hardly ever make it about themselves. That’s where God positions me.

Needy gentlemen and ladies have fragile souls. They are so delicate to a fault that if in the wrong hands, they will never blossom to their fullest. There is who you are, who people know you to be and the hidden potential in all of us. Why do you think love is the greatest gift? Why do you think there are soulmates? It’s that soul to soul connection that which can only exist when two hearts beat as one. The same way a mother knows her child is not okay is the same way a man/ lady is supposed to figure it out that something is up with their spouse. Needy men are very special and not everyone gets them. They come off as work which excites me because I love working on mysteries. They come off as kind and generous to a point where most describe them as too nice. Thus nice guys finish last.

If you know you are needy in certain areas of your life, get with someone who is strong. Think of the times you are the most vulnerable. Then picture someone more needy expecting you to see them through such circumstances. That’s a disaster waiting to happen. Two broken hearts will always find reasons to try and fix what’s broken. Two capable hearts will always find a way to stay happy. Your job is to love and receive that love in return. The problem with trying to fix a person is entitlement. I fixed you so choose me. It’s pathetic. Sympathy won’t keep a man. It will certainly capture his attention the same way nudity does but let’s face it, life is not a play boy mansion. At some point, you will out grow it. Needy gentlemen and ladies, loved the right way can be hidden streams. Don’t allow the ground work fool you. Some are born needy while others become needy due to unavoidable circumstances. Being needy doesn’t make you less of a man or lady.

I guess that’s why am single. I don’t know how to ask as I was born and taught how to become self sufficient. Real life is not one big happy family where we all share hugs and kisses. It’s survival for the fittest. Am just working on my 50%. See I might not match you financially but perhaps all I have to give comes in emotionally. We all have something to offer you just have to know what you are bringing to the table. Remember, it takes two to tango #MyMagazineThoughts

I missed the mark

Certain chances and opportunities in life are like shooting stars. I spent so much time back then looking up for such stars that I missed out on how beautiful the sky is at night. I would try and figure out the mystery behind each zodiac I could think off that sometimes I would walk away disappointed.

I wished upon a shooting star twice.

I never got what I wanted. Now with each chance I get to look up, I just think of how beautiful Gods work really it. It’s like walking in an art gallery hoping to meet the owner yet walking away disappointed.

I missed the mark.

I have learnt from that.

Today, I focus on the artwork if not the masterpiece infront of me. Perhaps it took a minute or longer but the story behind that painting or poem is what I seek the most. There is a deeper hidden meaning. Not for me to try and figure it out but for me to observe and embrace my own flaws which make me beautiful altogether.

You learn to live inspired and use that to have the courage to chase your own dreams. It’s not for you to love the author or poet, it’s for you to fall inlove with your own special kind of madness or magic which makes you, YOU ✨

Am not smart, Am wise

I stopped hanging out and availing myself to people who don’t see me the way God sees me. I am very protective of myself and who I am. Not many get the privilege of me calling you my friend. There are certain roles I take very seriously in life. Being someone’s friend is COSTLY.

Having meaningless conversations is something I avoid. Am a dreamer and sometimes a doer. I spend more time alone dreaming, imagining and envisioning. Am happiest alone just me and Google defying facts and feeding my mind with indescribable possibilities. Am creating my own facts. Calling you a friend is a priceless gift. If I ever say I don’t trust you it’s one of two things. I don’t know your story (why you act the way you do) or you have shown me why I shouldn’t trust you either directly or indirectly.

The one thing I pride myself in is respect. I will both respectfully walk in your life and gladly walk out. Am not an A student but I know how to read inbetween the lines. Am not smart, am wise. See if you have a story to tell, you have a hidden dream inbetween then & now. Wouldn’t be nice to just wake up one day & God brings you, a you. Imagine that. A you in another person. Someone who sees you the way you see yourself even when sometimes according to society there is nothing to see. Them seeing every possibility of you becoming bigger than your dreams. Them reminding you every now and then when doubt creeps in. Them praying with you. Them being angry at you when you stop believing. Have you ever had such a friend? Have you ever met such a person?

Everyone deserves this. Not everyone is that lucky. I got this line from a movie. Be careful how you treat people because you could be entertaining an angel. You are placed on this Earth to love and be loved. If you aren’t getting or giving one of the two, something is wrong.

For me to call you my friend it means I see that fight in you as well. You want it bad enough to wait for it and not be greedy. You have discipline and determination. You are focused yet a little crazy. It’s in you as it’s who you have always been even when you weren’t sure.

As I said it’s COSTLY. You must pay the price. It’s not something you buy into or out. All legends & the people I admire and look up to, have paid the price. They just didn’t have bad breaks but only had God left. It’s that much sweeter when it’s that bitter #MyMagazineThoughts

R-E-A-L-L-Y take it in

Everyone is in their own world right now. Uncertainty everywhere. Luxury is good but personally with unpredictability hovering those cars keys won’t laugh back at my silly jokes. Tomorrow is the new unknown future so all I ask is a little intervention from hope and love. I feel desperation kicking in. That’s when I need my sanity the most. To silence the now mentality. Or perhaps that’s the fighting spirit in me letting me know I still have some fight left in me. Don’t give up! Don’t give in! Silence the world outside and listen to inner peace.

Those lucky enough to have someone by their side during this pandemic to hold, embrace and assure them that everything is going to be alright, don’t take it for granted. Appreciate every kind gesture you get and return it back . Nothing is guaranteed . The solo ladies and gentlemen out there, I call you brave. Those strong enough to not use this pandemic to fall back into all habits,I celebrate you all. Keep going. Focus all that energy on achieving the impossible in trying times. You are remarkable. It will pay off eventually.

Last but not least there is me. I don’t know how I do it. It’s who I am purposed to be. Inspirational yet pretty messed up. Everyone who has experienced a blow in life knows that staying down only helps you strategize and come back strongest.

You know how we all joke and say welcome to the rest of your life? Baibèé this is it. This is the beginning of the rest of our lives. Some will be in denial and search for what was. Others will be stuck in what is. The rest will merge forward and never look back.

So, anything you have been uncertain of, that relationship, job or lifestyle, it’s all about to change. Lack has a way of showing us what truly matters. Spending time with someone/something gives you insight of who/what they really are. Ain’t it funny how things work themselves?

All in all, not all is lost. There is so much left. We were just swamped with getting ahead in life we forget to live. What is the significance of slow motion? There is something in life that requires our undivided attention. For us to R-E-A-L-L-Y take it all in.

Those are my #MagazineThoughts turned to a #RealityCheck

Do Not take too much time....

So much anger, hatred and bitterness overwhelming many lives. You have every right to be angry, disappointed and frustrated. You don’t expect others to feel or understand you by walking around bitter and hatred. Take time off and allow yourself to grieve. Let it all out. DO NOT TAKE TOO MUCH TIME BURIED IN SORROW. It will just rob you of time and what’s left of your life. When faced with sadness or loss, sometimes we find ourselves throwing away the good times and memories it brought with it.

The many missed opportunities to make the best of the worst. Rediscover yourself. Stop observing others and start living life intentionally for yourself. If no one reports their life to you every morning, why are you giving them the benefit of a doubt with yours? Take a month off. Better yet two. Okay fine, take half the year off. Now, hear me out. Come December 31st 2020, what will you tell your hopeful self? Do you think it’s fair you keep postponing your own happiness by allowing setbacks hold you back?

You have really convinced yourself that life hates you that much that’s why you never seem to catch a break. See you can’t feed yourself negativity and expect positivity in return. How would you know it if you keep blocking generosity with anger, peace with hatred. Goodness aren’t you tired of being tired all the time from years of self carried burdens? It’s like trying to fill a broken vase with water. The only thing that little water will attract is dust & afew mosquitoes. What’s attractive about that?

There was more to life before your anger and there will be more to life after. The constant words here being THERE and MORE TO LIFE. Only one thing standing in their way, you. Don’t be so consumed with the present least you forget the past. Again there is yet still more to come. People will outgrow you eventually. God won’t. People will give up on you, God hasn’t. He knows how to speak your language fluently that’s why only you understand your own pain well enough. It’s never the end until you have fulfilled your purpose.

Unless you start focusing on your own wins, you will always compare your life to others. Competing with others won’t prompt your success. The world is already hungry so don’t allow it to swallow you alive by hiding behind fear, hatred and bitterness. Do your best and leave the rest to God. Sometimes God takes too long. No that’s you wanting God to direct your life according to your timing. Where are you going in a hurry? Everyone else is on planet Earth. I mean this literally, “Come back to Earth”. Someone needs you.

You are someone’s #RealityCheck. So much for my #MagazineThoughts