What kind of friend are you?

Let's be real as always what kind of friend are you? Are the kind that keeps pushing your friend towards their goals? Are you the lets kick it kind that only shows up whenever free and drinks are used in the same sentence? Are you the kind that watches your friends make mistakes by doing what you are good at ... Being silent. You never air your views just in case you are accused of saying something offensive? Are you the cheerleader that cheers their friends on practically everything? 

Life is too short to be a cheerleader. Wait at your age you own Pom poms? We have a name for you with my kind ... clown! So basically you wake up and you just help others exist by applauding their lifestyle... Beautiful! I mean in a sarcastic way. So am guessing the day your friend kicks the bucket you will either cheer someone else on or start living your life huh! Well we all can't be you. Again that is not a compliment. 

Friends are supposed to grow each other and not sleep with the others boyfriend as someone once primitively pointed out. Wait is that your definition of having a friend where screwing is on the agenda? Damn! I must be old fashioned because to me my bestie is treated like my blood sister after having proven that she is trust worthy. 

Why do I have a feeling someone is dying to know what kind of a friend I am? Before you *girl* me to your 'crew' allow me put your curiosity at ease. I am the kind of friend who tells it like it is. I will also take your dreams and help you try and achieve them the best way I can. I am the kind that helps you bring out the best in you. I am the kind that you can turn to because I not only listen but I will help find a solution. I am the kind that lives her life but always take the time to care about those in my circle. 

I am your number one fan, a clown and everything else *giggles* . I am who you want me to be but at the end of the day am not defined by who people say I am. 

The Chase

When you chase someone who is chasing after another. Reminds me of my best friends wedding. It makes perfect sense doesn't it. Calm down and read on slowly. It was meant to be, you saw it , he saw it society was for it but it didn't work out. For some reason this all too confusing. 

Think about it, he has always been there but somehow he found someone else and in your mind you still think he is putting on an act but he is not or is he? You guys grew up together and even your parents teased the two of you of how you should hook up because no one  knows the other better than you. He doesn't have to say what is troubling him, you already know but what happens when it's right but wrong? 

I am not talking about home wrecking  here or being the other woman but what happens when he or she realizes they only care about you but not the same way you do about them? Do you still force the situation or threaten to make their lives miserable. Some of us ladies are meant to prepare these broke men for someone else to enjoy our sweat and effort into turning them into the good men that they have become. Come on don't be bitter. You know if it were not for your encouragements and support he would probably be a good for nothing son of a woman. So how does he reward you, by falling inlove with another. 

Gentlemen, this has everything to do with you but your opinion at this point is of no use. But I understand and that is why am speaking on your behalf. The never ending chase. She had your back when all you had was misery brcause even then you felt as though God had forgotten about you. So you did the right thing, you made her your number one. But the more you tried the more you were assured she is not the one. 

How long would you put up with a relationship as a result of gratitude? Personally I am selfish enough to not allow a day go by without feeling completely appreciated by someone I consider my better half. Out of sight out of mind isn't that what we are all made to believe. But how comes you end up settling for a look alike of the one that got away? 

Speaking of awkward moments ladies have you ever studied your man everyone the two of you bump into certain females? This is not where you get to pull the please I don't stare, am stared at card. While you are full of yourself, she and the rest of society is laughing at your foolishness. Believe that grasshopper. I am not in a relationship but being the sober and keen observer I am, it amazes me what other females put up with all in the name of atleast he calls me his girl. Really!? While you the supposedly love of his love mark you territory by trying to cut the conversation short or pulling an infant move * baby lets go* your Prince Charming is secretly drooling and seeking audience with this * undefined* creature. The way he smiles from ear to ear, hugs her from behind while awaiting to board a matatu at night which brings me to the next question gentlemen, how do you do that? How do you notice her from behind at night in the dark? How do you just act as though the one you are with doesn't exist the minute "she" shows up? 

The chase continues in my #RealityCheck 

Inspired By CNN

There is nothing wrong with airing your views as long as they are proven facts. The power of being misquoted and it's not what I meant when all along you had a choice to be silent. It got me thinking of the many times I have witnessed people make the same mistake thinking they are coming off as Heroes but end up looking like bitter fools. Empty as the very same claims they tried to raise. 

The power of words. They can make or break an entire nation. For now thanks to that one little yet huge slip up it is uniting Kenyans. Now that is a we are one moment. We are all putting our differences aside to address this "terror" issue. In a way in my opinion, it brought back a bullying moment. When someone who has the opportunity to make a difference in the world tries to instill fear just because they assumed we are in Afrrica we pose a threat to other countries. Don't get us wrong we have wild animals in the wild but the rest of us human beings are the opposite ... Calm, Neighbourly and Notable see CNN *giggles* 

Let's all learn from this. Like what ever happened to being innocent until proven guilty? Doing your homework literally? Think before you speak? Perhaps whomever spoke those ill words must have been having a bad day or had a personal issue with a specific individual but to take it out on an entire country and on National Television to me leaves nothing to be desired. 

It's not in my place to judge but learn that given the chance to make a difference internationally I will not allow the immediate go to my head . I will try calm myself down because it's no longer about me but others. Try and leave an impact a positive one in people's lives and not the other way round. People leaving an impact on your life. That is how fast has changes to had. In the heat of a moment learn to pull away and have a self meeting with yourself. 

And that is my #RealityCheck 

My four o'clock

I have been struggling with landing on that perfect inspiration. I have so much in mind but I just needed that go ahead and blog kind of kick. Now that I have found it, am excited. Today being Tuesday I have a million plus things to be thankful for. I am thankful for being alive, healthy, of sound mind, brave enough to face and embrace this day, for smile for no particular reason, for laughing for afew couple of reasons and among all those am most thankful that I still get to be myself. 

It's not easy sticking to who you have been called to be. Of course being a lady I want to keep up with the trend by dressing the part but that shouldn't hinder me from utilizing my God given potential. At times I know things that take  too long to come to pass that really weigh me down. Like who wants to know all that if it will happen years later. Or like my best friend highlights I have the vision but awful timing *laughs*. 

I was crazy about the month of June but for no particular reason am inlove with July. Don't even ask but I can't help but smile and glow. 

So much has happened since January. We have lost loved ones, lost opportunities that we wish we took, lost meaning of what is left of life. But just like any match, that was only the first half. You can still change the outcome by the end of the year. To me a day is enough to turn your life around while to God a second is enough for him to turn things around. From a zero to a hero. Just like that. All he has to do is say it and it's done. 

Allow me to get my preach on. What we have all been suffering from is the process. The same old routine. Having to do the same thing you did today tomorrow and the next day and the next day after that until you feel drained and you find yourself giving and embracing the phase. But what we forget is that the process makes us toughen up to get us to where God wants us to be. This is where most of us have discovered our true friends because nobody wants the process. 

Then comes change. When you pull people from familiar places to unfamiliar they harden. What they were used to might not have been working out by atleast they still want the illusion that they were cracking the system of how it was better than this new change. 

People have gone a step further and taken the word literally. The word says ," As I was with Moses so shall I be with you". Beautiful words. Let me break it down because I find that most ladies are struggling with this scripture while trying to apply it in their own lives. So perhaps your mentor has a lifestyle that got you wishing you had the same. So instead of living your life you start living it through so one else. From admiring to possessing. It doesn't work. Just because I was raised in church and mylife somehow looks as if it's better from your point of view doesn't mean you stop being you, join the same church, wear the same clothes , befriend my very same friends and expect to be blessed the same. 

Instead of changing clothes, ladies we need to change our hearts. We already look amazing although some of us are trying hard to alter their already God given beauty by fixing what is not broken. We need to find our own inner voice and stand out. You have to discover your own uniqueness then the right people will show up in your life. Let's be real ladies, how many men have you been with and yet they keep disappointing you the very same way. Perhaps the problem is not the men you attract but who you are as a person that attracts that kind of a man. 

And that is my #RealityCheck

My love letter to you

I have a feeling if I don't write this love letter someone else will beat me to it. There is something you need to know about your girl, she is very competitive in a good way. Like if I think it I want to be the one to tell of how this idea came to me kind of thing. Am not afraid of loosing you because am secure enough to know if you want to go, I will not hold you back.

I want to tell you when am having a great idea, I usually have a lot of these. I want you to be the first to tell when am having a crapy day and feel like b*tching about it or like now am taking a matatu home and   some passenger was like " shukisha sodi " *laughs*there is no cute way of making a perverted place sound sexy *burst out laughing* Sodi as in Sodom like in the bible *giggles* I hope it's not what am thinking. By now am hoping you are my number one fan and hate it when I don't blog. I pray you get my sense of humor and that your friends assuming you have already told them about me think you are mad for liking someone you have never met perhaps. 

I just want you to hurry and claim me.i will tell you what am afraid of though, that these men pursuing me one day I will grow weary of letting them down and that I will eventually give in. You are taking too damn long. Wherever you are get your ašš home to me *smile* babygal is human, straight and has needs *blushes*. Perhaps you are in the club watching women twerking well I can twerk * falls down laughing* or working late in the office if that's the case I hope this keeps you entertained. Maybe you are in a relationship with a lady who is treating you like you were her last option well let her know there is about to be a new sheriff in town who will lets just say I will show you * wink*. Wherever you are you son of a woman, know a heart somewhere tonight is struggling because it beats for you and eyes that are tired of looking at other men but rather want to be lost in yours. 

I would go on but am going home to a cold bed so no need to torture myself . I miss you and until the day we will meet I will keep writing hoping you get my love letter(s). I have so much to tell you and by now I know you are a smart man, you have figured it out. Good God I miss you. Oh well I will survive considering this girl is on fire *laughing sheepishly * am done. Goodnight my calm heartbeat. Until then I will do my best to make you proud of me.

And that is my love letter #RealityCheck 

Wounds

Gentlemen, this is how you deal or rather handle a wounded woman, let her be. Don't entertain her or think by loving her past her pain will make her see you for the man you are. Secretly she is waiting for you to mess up and the you men are all the same speech goes off. We both know you deserve better than a bitter woman. 

This kind of woman is too emotionally involved if not drained. She is the type that holds on to another woman's man not because she likes the man but because she wants to prove to others while proving to herald that she can keep a man. Ladies if you have evert encountered such females please stay clear of the unnecessary drama. She has nothing to loose by acting psycho. For the record she is not acting crazy she is crazy. 

Ladies don't waste your breath on a wounded man. He will only drag you down his you women are all the same shenanigans. You are a princess awaiting her crown not a clown awaiting his puppet master in the circus. Wounded men unlike psychotic ladies look the gentleman part. He plays his role all to well. He acts like a two year old and blames it on the jealousy card. By that I mean he will literally embarrass you all in the name of am defending what is mine. Seeking attention in all the wrong ways. Hey, he didn't change, you were just too smitten to see past the gifts that all that was to cover up. 

Such men avoid real talk but when they decided to open up is as bait to make you stay. They are good at manipulating and making you feel as though it's your fault. You end up committing to a man just to prove you are nothing like his ex. 

Time heals all wounds but damn it how is it supposed to if you keep blaming it on the same old story and not willing to learn from your mistakes. So how will making life hard for everyone else ease your pain? Ladies how will draining a good man whom we both know you don't deserve because of your bitterness show the rest of us good ladies that bad pays off? Unless your intentions are to spread hate and anger I don't see the need of all this madness. Gentlemen how will you making a good woman suffer help reduce the pain? Why are you robbing her the chance to be with a man who has already fought his demons and can love her the way she deserves a bad thing? 

In my opinion bitter and people in pain should be isolated because they have so much negative energy. You don't get over someone by starting a new relationship. You can only be healed not by time but by yourself. You have to want this bad enough for yourself. The same energy you are using to scheme and make others pay should be the same focus on making you a better you. 

I understand the pain but I don't sympathize. We have all had to deal with a loss in one way or another. Great or small so stop acting as though you are doing God a favor by being alive. We get it you are mad, you probably have every right to be but tell me this what does that have to do with me trying to show you that I will not hurt you . Not like that anyway. Am human not immortal so don't expect unrealistic gestures. 

I will leave you with this," I love you " has eight letter but sadly so is " Bullshit" so you do the math. 

And that is my wounds #RealityCheck 

My 7pm thought

Isn't it funny or sad depending on how you look at it people want promotion without having to go through the process. They only want the title but having to work for it feels like a job. These are the very same people who are always complaining when asked to either report to work early or spare an hour after working hours as per their contracts demanding for an extra pay yet all they ever do really is download movies, stream online and tweet of how they hate their jobs. Which got me thinking of you hate it enough to talk about it why not quit? I term such people as liabilities. 

Anyone who has a bad working relationship to be honest in my opinion in person are toxic even in their personal lives. You have nothing new to offer and yes they are predictable. Nothing you ever do will be good enough to them. Identify and avoid them. They are the very same people who lack self esteem so they seek it out through others on the hope of loving themselves. 

I feel like just by writing this the one for me needs this *laughs*. I got you. It's not how long you live but how well you live. I always say my work is to make someone else life easier by listening to inspirational messages and breaking it down in a way you can use this to get through that phase. 

Most people ignore where they are trying to get to where they are supposed to be.. This came as a surprise to me that your future is somehow in Kin with your past . At times we all find ourselves falling inlove with tomorrow and neglecting today when things don't work out. The secret is in surviving today and using what you learn to live out tomorrow. 

This blew me away that we are attracted to people who have mastered what they do. This answers a lot of questions. So when the one you are with says that you have changed *smiles* ...... you are welcome. There are things that only experience can teach you so don't run a race with horses when you are tired from walking with men. That is deep. A true master only shines when the light is on him. So, what kind of a master are you?

And that is my 7pm #RealityCheck. Have an attractive night checkmates.